Oh boy what a year 2015 was. Many changes took place, and I think things got better in many ways through the year.
The first of those things being how I spent my holiday season. I was able to spend it where I wanted, with my family. I attended the traditional Christmas Eve gathering at my Grandma’s house for the first time in probably five years. I stayed overnight at her house and helped her cook Christmas Dinner. We played some pretty rad board games with some “healthy” competition to boot. On Boxing Day, my sister and I had Christmas dinner with my dad. I also watched my sister get a bit emotional over her gift from Dad. Also, Boxing Day included a morning of colouring with my sisterand an evening of Magic: The Gathering and wine. After the Christmas rush, I had a gift exchange with another good friend. I made her a scarf, and she gave me a collection of Classic Doctor Who novels! Super geeky and awesome! The 28th brought a day of yarn shopping, kombucha brewing and home improvements, and the evening a Star Wars: The Force Awakens movie date with my step-sister Nikki. It was a really good Christmas this year and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Now for all of those changes and lessons that happened in 2015… There were a lot of them! Let’s look at a few of the changes, and the things I’ve learned. Here’s a little summary:
- I became single.
- I started living along – for the first time ever.
- I’m much more happy than I was, though I still have a ways to go.
- My cat is happier, less stressed and less anxious.
- I less stressed and less anxious.
- I started learning how to manage my money on my own – it’s tricky sometimes!
- I started reconnecting with friends, forging new connections – being more social in general.
- I started to put myself and my happiness first, rather than that of others
- I fully embraced my geek.
- I started learning (however slowly) how to be me and how to not allow others to define me and who I am as a person.
- I learned that only I am responsible for my happiness and the direction my life goes.
- I learned that only I know what’s best for me.
- I made huge strides in coping with my anxiety and depression, thanks to my therapist’s help (even though I do still have some really bad days).
- I started learning how to stand up for myself.
This is not an exhaustive list of what I learned and what changed, but it is a pretty comprehensive one. I experienced a lot of personal growth, not without the help of friends and family. I even spent my New Year’s Eve with friends and some pretty cute kids. Today, on New Year’s Day, I am looking forward to what 2016 will bring for me.
I was a little bit cliché this year and I came up with a small list of goals I want to accomplish in 2016. As always, I refuse to call them resolutions, it just seems so lame when I do . Anyways, this is THAT list:
- Be kind to myself, stop holding myself up to the ridiculous double standard I have up to this point.
- Get properly healthy. E.g. eat better, make use of my gym membership, generally be more active
- Break some bad habits.
Since I moved into my new place and settled in, I’ve developed a few bad habit and kept up with some old ones. They include leaving the dishes for days, sitting and not getting things done that need doing, and riding the bus to avoid walking. These all easily remedied if I set my mind to it, and I finally have. Motivation is key and this year I hope I have found it in a way that I never have before. Here’s to 2016 and being successful in my goals, and you in yours!
Happy New Year!